When a loved one dies, you shouldn't have to figure it out alone.
Two quiet places to start. Take whichever one you need today.
- Free, and it stays free
- Nothing you type here is saved
- Most of this can wait
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Tap to openThe checklist
What to do, from the first hours through the first year.
Questions to ask the funeral home
Price, timeline, burial, cremation, and what families wish they'd asked.
How to help someone grieving
For the friends who want to show up and don't know how.
For funeral homes and hospices
Hand this to families. It's free and there's nothing to sign.
The parts you can't look up at 2am.
- Word for word, what to say when the bank asks why you're calling.
- An obituary and a eulogy you can fill in when nothing comes.
- A sheet that splits the work so one person isn't carrying all of it.
- Trackers you can type into and send to a sibling.
Get the kit
$19
Eleven files, yours to keep and print as many times as you need. I made this the month after my dad died, out of everything I couldn't find.
If money is tight right now, email me and I'll send it. No explanation needed.
Real pages from the kit
A few things each week, for as long as it helps.
Short notes at the moments that tend to be hardest. Three things at a time, never more. Weekly at first, then less often. You can stop any time.